May 2013
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Air Force Sexual Assault Prevention Chief Charged... →
Jeffrey Krusinski, 41, was removed from his position as soon as the Air Force learned of the arrest. Krusinski was the officer in charge of the sexual prevention and response branch for the Air Force.
Well.
Anon said:
One of my best friends was raped and told me about it. I have never told them that a few months before that, I was raped, too. Sometimes I want to tell my friend just so they don’t feel so alone, so that they understand that when I say things it’s not just because I’m spouting bullshit but I’ve been there. But I’m afraid of, I don’t know, triggering...
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[TW: Rape culture, victim blaming]
Anon said:
i constantly struggle with accepting my rape, and talking to others about it because it wasn’t what most people picture when they think about rape. I was 15 and black out drunk. I had said no earlier in the night, before he managed to get me so drunk i could barely walk. I didnt even realize that it was rape until over a year later. because i was so bullied and tormented for it,...
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Anon asked:
so, i’m traveling to visit my girlfriend for the first time. we’ve dated 6 months but have never met (internet). we’ve talked about sex and while she says she’s very enthusiastic, i’m still worried. i’m worried that the amount of money i’m spending to see her will make her feel obligated and she won’t be in a position to genuinely...
April 2013
48 posts
“If owning a gun and knowing how to use it worked, the military would be the...”
– A Short Post on Rape Prevention (via brute-reason)
Exactly.
Be honest: You don’t give a shit about rape victims.
You don’t fucking care.
You make excuses for the rapists all the damn time.
This is about policing women’s bodies and telling them to just ‘shut up and stop complaining about your...
“**TRIGGER WARNING**
As a survivor of campus sexual assault, and as someone who...”
– Wagatwe Wajuki, “College Rape: Does The Media Only Focus Only On White Survivors?”, PolicyMic 4/29/13 (via racialicious)
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[TW: Sexual assault]
Anon said:
A while ago a friend (a guy I have a lot of mutual friends with and always ended up hanging out with) and I ended up making out in our underwear after a night out drinking. We were both really drunk. I remember him touching me and trying to make me touch his penis. (it was the first time I’ve ever had sexual contact with anyone). I said I didin’t feel comfortable and he...
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[TW: rape]
Anon asked:
A couple of days ago I went out at a hookah bar and guy there asked me to sit on his lap and I said no, and then he’s like lets go down stair and I kept on saying no I just want to go to bed, and then he just picked me up and carried me down there and then raped me, I then got up and then left I had to call everybody or anybody to come pick me up I was crying, and I just said I...
rescueeffect replied to your post: [TW: rape culture]
Personally, I’d drop him, but I probably am quick to cut people out of my life b/c I’m done with putting up with other people’s shit. /badatadvice
More like super awesome at advice. Ditto for oohsarracuda (awesome name by the way) and scooterpiebanana.
I don’t think we can be too quick to cut people who don’t support us...
Anon who just sent me a message that started with,
continued: the truth is,
I don’t have the first one! :( Re-send?
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[TW: rape culture]
Anon asked:
Hello, I’m having a little trouble with a friend who uses “rape” as a metaphor for completely unrelated things. I finally called him out on it last night and we fought. He’s a really good friend and I’ve known him for 15 years! Deep down he has a good heart but he’s still in the 12-year old boy mentality it seems. I don’t want this to ruin...
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[TW: Sexual abuse, incest]
Anon said:
I am female and almost 17 years old and my adoptive dad likes messing with me. Tickling, picking me up, giving me inappropriate wedgies, etc. He pulls my underwear all the time when roughhousing; I don’t like it, especially when he gives me “frontal wedgies” by yanking my underwear up the front of my crotch, and that hurts. I always tell him to stop, I don’t always like roughhousing,...
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Tyler Perry’s Rape Problem | Racialicious - the... →
Perry inexplicably chooses to leave the audience in suspense–briefly–as to whether or not an actual rape occurred, all while promoting the dangerous idea that a woman’s “no” is not really “no,” but merely part of the game of seduction. This scene puts Perry in such fine company as men’s rights advocates who argue that date/acquaintance rape is simply buyer’s remorse, and men who argue–as one man...
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USDOJ: Justice Department Releases Updated... →
Research shows that programs with trained examiners, such as Sexual Assault Nurse Examiners (SANEs) or Sexual Assault Forensic Examiners (SAFEs), using modern standards like those in the SAFE Protocol significantly increase evidence collection and investigation in sexual assault cases. Better evidence collection results in significantly higher prosecution rates, convictions, and guilty-pleas....
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[TW: victim blaming]
Anon asked:
I recently tried reaching out to a friend my abusive ex made me block out of my life. I tried to explain the situation to her - he made me cut off a lot of ties I had to close friends and family. She said I had a choice in staying with him and should have seen how his controlling/abusive behavior was wrong. She said I should have reached out to her and it was ultimately my choice to...
kranjska asked: To the most recent anon: i went through the exact thing you did about a year and a half ago. If you ever wanna talk about it, I'm willing to listen. Otherwise, i hope things get easier for you <33
Anon asked:
What’s the difference between sexual assault and sexual coercion?
Legally there may be a difference in how a specific assault is categorized for prosecution. If you’re speaking generally though, all sexual coercion is sexual assault, but not all assaults involve coercion. Coercion is a specific way that sexual assault may occur. Some rapes involve manipulation, threats...
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[TW: victim blaming, rape culture]
Anon said:
I was raped by someone I had known for years and considered a close friend. I think the worst part of it, though, was having one of my best friends tell me that I obviously didn’t try hard enough to fight him. I’m still not quite sure how to take that.
I’m so sorry. :( They’re a terrible friend and they don’t deserve to be in your life. You experienced...
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[TW: rape]
Anon asked:
Hello, I have a question. I was raped by a stranger, with whom I chose (before the incident occurred) to get intoxicated with, mainly because at that time I didn’t care what happened to me, or so I thought. I have been told many time that it wasn’t my fault but it feels like it was- also because I didn’t say no, or yes or anything because, I was so scared for my...
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[TW: rape]
Anon asked:
Freshman year in high school I went to my first party and was raped by one of the host’s friends. It was an awful experience and I haven’t had sex since, but when my friends ask me if I’ve had sex before I never know what to say because I’ve had intercourse with someone but it wasn’t consensual, so physically I’m not a virgin, but mentally I feel...
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[TW: sexual assault of a child]
Anon asked:
When I was ten one of my boy classmates and I used to go to this hall bit in school and meet and one time he kept asking me to take off my underwear and feel my breasts, or what I had of them at that point. He kept asking and asking and I then said yes and then a couple of days after he got his penis out and ask me to put my mouth on it and if I didn’t he would tell the teacher...
Anon said:
I finally worked up the nerve to email my rapist to tell him everything I wish I knew when we were dating: that he had no right to ignore me when I said no, and that what he did was a crime. Except I never thought I’d feel disappointed about not hearing back from him. I know it’s best that he doesn’t respond, since it could victimize me all over again, but I also...
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[TW: Rape details]
Anon said:
I was ‘with’ this guy and we started messing around. I asked him to stop, he said, ‘no trust me, it’ll feel good’ I Let him finger me It excalated and i told him to stop.I left crying. He reassured me everything was going to be ok, and I did nothing wrong I felt better. A few nights later, he asked if he could eat me out, I said no, i dont think so, he...
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[TW: sexual abuse of children, rape culture,...
Anon asked:
When I was 5, I was molested by an older male cousin. My grandma caught him holding me down on a bed while he humped me. She told him to go outside while she spanked me and called me a bad girl for not fighting back, as if I liked him on top of me or something like that. My parents were horrified, but my cousin’s mom begged them not to press charges. So no one mentioned it again. I...
mypain-isnot-yourentertainment asked: Hello. I've started the blog and posted my first full review... Can you please let your readers know that I'm open to submission for shows, books, movies, advertisement... anything that touches people, really? Thank you very much!
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[TW: rape culture, victim blaming, child abuse]
Anon said:
Yesterday, my mom told me about a woman that was repeatedly raped by her uncle when she was a child. My mom said the girl’s aunt had warned her not to go near the woods outside their house or bad things would happen. Coincidentally, the girl’s uncle would sexually abuse the girl and her little sister there. My mom told me if the little girl had just listened to her aunt,...
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[TW: Rape]
Anon asked:
When I was 15, i was at a party and I became really upset because i had just found out bad news. I started drinking and drinking (I weighed 90 lbs at the time) and then i started flirting with this guy I barely knew, Things escalated and we went to his car and I lost my virginity. I remember almost nothing and didn’t even realize what had happened until later when my friend...
Survivors' Rally →
Just thought you might be interested. A friend started this recently:
“Rape” is a word that causes many people serious discomfort, particularly survivors. We cannot ignore the word, however, any more than we can ignore the act. This is a blog for news, awareness, stories, and, most of all, hope. This is also a safe haven for those who have survived sexual assault of any kind, women...
“What people don’t understand is when we say “Teach men not to rape,” we’re not...”
– Kalitena on Facebook (via waitforhightide)
“[TW: rape]
We’re as sick as our secrets and the shame keeps us in isolation....”
– Ashley Judd, possible Kentucky Senate candidate, opened up about sexual assault in a speech in DC today. (via motherjones)
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[TW: Sexual assault, abuse]
Anon said:
When I was 13, my boyfriend (yeah, I know, I was too young to be dating) asked if he could feel me up and I said no. He didn’t press it, but he did make me feel guilty with his reaction, so I let him do it. Later he said that if he got to touch my breasts I should touch his dick because it was ‘only fair’. I didn’t want to and it made me uncomfortable, but...
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[TW: assault, rape culture]
Anon said:
This sounds strange and in no way does this compare to stuff I seen other people go through, but earlier this year there was a boy in my class who would touch my lower back directly above my butt, and he would scratch me there in the hallway and it drew blood at one point and I don’t know if that counts as sexual assault or what but I still feel dirty and guilty for letting him...
Anonymous asked: One thing to add to the rape kit thingy is sometimes they may ask you to come in the following days if more bruises develop on you. This is also optional.
thereisnosaintellen asked: I'd say be as inclusive as possible (PoC, queer community, etc.), try to find someone in your local community who works at a rape crisis center or an equivalent to that, always make sure to cite your sources, make it a safe space for survivors to talk (if you have that option), contact Take Back the Night (they're really good with helping plan events that aren't specifically TBTN),...
Anonymous asked: Can we submit anonymously? Or is it best to use the ask function for that? I'm brand new to tumblr so I'm still figuring out how posting and submitting things works.
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[TW: sexual assault/abuse of children]
Anon asked:
When I was younger, maybe 12 or 13, a friend of mine started touching me. I wasn’t entirely sure about why, but now knowing what I do, I’m still not upset that they did it. I’m almost apathetic. Is that wrong?
No, definitely not. There is no right or wrong way to respond to sexual assault or abuse. I had somewhat similar experiences as a child that I don’t...
Anon asked:
Hey. I’m a survivor and I’m active into the tumblr roleplay community. I often see in media, fanfics, roleplay, etc, rape used as a plot device with close to no respectful treatment. I’m thinking of starting a tumblr project along the lines of “my pain is not your entertainment” to address the abuse (physical, emotional, sexual) present in media and its...
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Priest's rape appeal denied →
A Massachusetts appellate court on Tuesday rejected the appeal of a former Albany Roman Catholic Diocese priest who was convicted of raping altar boys during trips to Berkshire County in the 1980s.
Yeah, you can fucking rot in there, please and thanks.
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New Kansas law ends statute of limitations for... →
Good for you, Kansas.
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Iowa Rape Victim Faults University →
A woman raped by two University of Northern Iowa football players eight years ago says she has been devastated by the school’s failure to make accommodations for her to stay in school, according to a transcript of court testimony obtained by The Associated Press.
The Davenport woman testified in a Feb. 22 deposition in a civil lawsuit that she continues to suffer panic attacks and...
iirebekah asked: So i am trying to arrange a rape culture awareness event on my college campus and i was wondering if you (or anyone here) had any pointers on what we should do, or materials, films, speakers we should look into to use.
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Precocious Fifth Grade Psychopaths Conspire to... →
stfuhypocrisy:
[TW: RAPE]
Two fifth grade boys, aged 10 and 11, have been ruled competent to stand trial in juvenile court for conspiring to rape and kill their female classmate, and possibly murder other students as well. They were arrested after a classmate saw them playing with a knife on the school bus and reported it to a teacher.
Normally, state law specifies that children between the...
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[TW:] In regard to collecting forensic evidence,...
rapesurvivorproblems:
Okay, on collecting forensic evidence through a rape kit.
If you know early on that you want to prosecute and/or get your rape kit done, the best thing to do is go to the hospital as soon as possible. Within the first 72 hours.
Do not pass Go, do not collect $200, go directly to the hospital and ask for a rape kit. It can be hard to impossible to say out loud, I know. Ask...
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[TW: rape, abuse]
Anon said:
I told my exboyfriend no the “first time,” (and nearly all subsequent times)and tried to push him away. Sometimes I’d cry and beg, but he would do whatever he could to get me to “consent,” whether it was to just keep going until I gave up and shut off my mind,to try to turn me on despite my protests that I didn’t want to be touched, or to guilt me.I...
laurenmcnaughty asked: I'm an RA on my campus, and I'm really wanting to do a bulletin board in my building about rape culture, both in general and campus-specific. I have a lot of information in my head and I don't have problems talking about the issue with others, but I am at a loss for how to present in written form that communicates the point to residents. Do you have any suggestions? Or have you seem...
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[TW: rape]
Anon said:
So I got really drunk at this party and according to this guy (and I don’t remember saying this, although I don’t remember a lot of what happened) that I wanted to lose my virginity that night. All I remember is that something went in for a bit, and it hurting a lot, but I didn’t bleed the next day/my pelvis wasn’t hurting. Somehow he had my number, and after...
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[TW: rape culture] Ex-soldier gets probation in... →
Submitted by yasdnillindsay.
This has to be one of the more despicable stories of late. What possible justification is there for giving a rapist and trafficker—who preyed on a 14 year old girl—PROBATION? JFC.
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[TW: description of rape]
Anon said:
(continued) some friends from his band stopped by and started passing around more alcohol. By the end of the night, I was blacked out. I woke up the next morning, in what I assume was a guest room, wearing only my shirt, with my own vomit in my hair, and scrapes all over my face (an indication that I was so drunk I was falling down). There was a used condom on the floor and I could...
